Be Discerning With Your Time

From the moment we are born, we have a finite number of hours in which to exist. Within this, we must love, work, play, protest, advocate, make change, make a life for ourselves, make a difference in this world. Every moment you spend with people you love is time well spent. 

So why are you spending time with people you don't love? People you find draining? People you allow to leech your precious time because you feel sorry for them. 

Here's some honest advice: stop caring about being nice to people who don't deserve it. It's a waste of your time. 

This is not to say you have the right to be rude, mean and insensitive to anyone and everyone. I am a firm believer in lending others the benefit of the doubt. But once a person has proved to you they are not good for you, don't care about you, are self-centred, insensitive or malicious - this is when you are justified in minimising their presence in your life. And I believe you ought to do this as an act of self-care and preservation of your inner peace. 

Spend not another moment on someone who is undeserving of your attention. There are so many more people in your life who deserve it, and we all have a finite amount of hours in which to live and love. 




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